Is it too much to ask???

WARNING: I am venting. I am not waging war or declaring intent to change the world. Just venting.


Is it really too much to ask that someone who's meeting you for the first time make the tiniest investment in creativity to ask you to do something besides... come visit at his house?

I have had it with this dating era! FIRST of all... I don't know anywhere else to meet new guys but online. Heaven knows there aren't any single men within ten years of my age range in my ward. I tried the singles ward and it too was void of potential... mostly 22 year olds. I don't work, and my married friends have said they don't really know anyone. So I'm left with the internet dating. FINE.

What is annoying me so much is that recently I can't find a guy online who will actually ask me out on a DATE. Nope. They won't even come over and pick me up to meet them. It's always, "why don't you drive out here to see me Heidi?" "Don't you want to come over and cuddle with me Heidi?" "Come over and 'hang out' with me Heidi." Come on!
Don't get me wrong, I don't mind cuddling, driving to see someone or even hanging out once in a while, but for Pete's sake, does it have to be the ONLY thing you can think of to do on a first date! And why couldn't they get in their car to come and see ME??? Am I the only one with a working vehicle? There's a bus...


I hate to burst anyone's bubble, but sitting around watching an un-showered, un-groomed man playing video games is not my idea of a good time.
I understand that the economy sucks. I understand men don't want to make a huge (one date's worth) financial investment in a woman that they aren't sure they even like yet. I'm even okay with all of that. So what about a cheap or free activity???

I'm asking you, Where is the creativity? I don't mean that we should aim for the marathon dates of days past in high school where you had to plan for weeks to find some cutesy way to ask someone out with some sort of irritating poem attached to a a shred of paper mixed into a big box full of blank shreds of paper. That would annoy me just as much.

What I was hoping is that a single man might have enough brain cells to rub together that he could think of something cheep or even free to do. An activity that doesn't involve his couch!

I have some ideas... How about a snowball fight, or sledding or making a snow man.
What about playing a board game and eating a bag of chips.
There's always the traditional "go for a walk idea."
And truth be told, there are plenty of art exhibits in the city that are cheap if not free to visit.
If he's not sure how much time he wants to spend with me, (for instance, if he meets me and instantly decides I'm not his type) Then there is always inviting me to meet him for a cup of hot chocolate. It's cheap, and if he has me meet him somewhere to get it he doesn't even have to drive me home afterwards. Brilliant.
But no. I am bombarded with suitors who only want to get physical. They're not interested in finding out if I might have so much more to offer than that alone. SIGH....
I'm going to go drink a cup of hot chocolate... by myself.